I finally found a way to lose weight… and most of it happens while I’m asleep. When I wake up in the morning I’m usually a pound lighter than when I go to bed at night, but that’s not what I’m talking about. I’m still amazed at how easy it’s been to lose 20 pounds, despite a few minor setbacks.

Three months ago, I realized I couldn’t stand to look at myself in the mirror. Most of my life was the way I want it, but my body? Ugh. I knew I had to do something, but what? I’ve never been a successful dieter because I love the beauty, sensuality and the taste of food too much. Way too much.


Lugging around all those extra pounds, I had no desire to exercise. My ass was dragging. In fact, ever since I got that electric toothbrush, I wasn’t getting any exercise at all. Well that’s not quite true – I made at least 12 trips to the refrigerator a day. It all sounds so pitiful now, but back then I couldn’t stop myself.

A side effect was that I couldn’t sleep. Sleep studies indicated sleep apnea, but CPAP, rubbing my feet with lavender oil at night, and taking calcium and magnesium didn’t resolve anything. I couldn’t sleep more than about 4 hours at night and people constantly told me I looked tired. Even at 9 am in the morning.

But the killer was that when I traveled to different time zones, I regularly fell asleep in the middle of leading workshops. A completely intolerable situation.

Since I teach coaching for transformation, I felt myself slipping out of integrity because I couldn’t transform this part of myself. I was completely stuck. Addicted to eating vast quantities food.

So I went on the warpath to reclaim my body.

A lot of people supported me in losing weight, but none more than Linda Bannerman, a therapist certified in Nonviolent Communication, who helped me change the way I think about food, exercise and sleep. With her guidance, I changed everything, starting with hypnosis to change the way I talk to myself.

I created a recording that I played every night as I went to sleep. I told myself I no longer needed to snack, that I feel good when I exercise and that sleep is a gift I give myself after a full day of contributing. As a result of changing my thinking, I was able to change my behavior.

As I changed my habits, another cool thing happened. Andrea and Tiffany got me excited about yoga again and I started doing yoga with Andrea every morning on vimeo. Even on days when I got up early to do workshops. Amazing. Wednesday I started making a weekly trek to Mansfield to do yoga with Kathleen.


And when I teach NVC at Kripalu at the end of February, I’m staying a few extra days just to do yoga.

I asked many people to support me in the process of reclaiming my body and I especially appreciate David, Sushma and Vikram who got me to go on long walks with them. Walks that were just a little too long. And Sanah went swimming with me in the middle of winter, when no one else would. Then her grandfather Raji took us to the Global Vipassana Pagoda for inspiration.

downloadFor years, Dian and Woody have tried to get me to eat more raw food, and finally I started acting on their old suggestions. Now I totally savor the beauty of raw food and love the recipes at Rawmazing. The pictures are tantalizing, but the food is even more exquisite than it looks.

Dale and Mary and all the folks at Mary’s Gone Crackers turned me on to gluten free foods and I got to try some of their new recipes. Wonderful healthy food.




Lots of other people helped me get to my goal weight. I’m thrilled to have my energy back. So I’m sharing the recording I listen to every night in case you want to give it a go. But ideally, you’ll create your own recording and personalize it to include any changes you want to make in your life. You can use my script as a starting point for creating your own. To your health!




About the author:

441 Martha Lasley is a founder of Coaching for Transformation, an accredited coach training program and ChangeMakers, a year-long facilitation training program. She creates results-oriented programs that inspire, motivate, and transform. “I surround myself with people who take risks and look for new ways of doing things; we explore both the solid ground and the edges of transformation.”

Martha is a certified trainer in Nonviolent Communication and is a professional member of the Indian Society for Applied Behavioral Science. She has written three books: Courageous Visions; Facilitating with Heart; and Coaching for Transformation.